The World Health Organization defines sexual health this way...

“…a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.” (WHO, 2006a)

We don't define peace as just the absence of conflict but the presence of something good, something unifying. In the same way, we don't define sexual health by the absence of disease or dysfunction but the presence of something good.

When you look at your sexuality, where do you find the presence of something hurtful and where do you find goodness, connection and intimacy?