A GREAT PRE-MARITAL QUESTION THAT WE DON'T PUT ON THE LIST TO ASK...

What do you imagine it looking like to suffer with this person? When you suffer, is this the person you want to be with in the thick of it?

We all know life gets to be too much at certain points. So much of marriage isn't about how we make love but how we make war and how we hold each other's suffering. Personality and family of origin culture all impact how comfortable we are in another's pain and there can be a great deal of heartache saved by looking at this topic as much as finances or sex.